Hari Om.You know, I was thinking about the difference between love and the bank. They are so similar, yet there's a big difference. When you have enough money in the bank, then they want to give you more. When you have no money, then they won't give you any. When you have enough love, you don't need any love. But when you have no love, you search for love.
Osho said, 'How true is this love?' Do you really know the meaning of love, and if you know the meaning, does the other person love you as much as you love them? So you are fully occupied with this idea: 'Am I getting as much love as I should be having in this relationship?' And it continues for a long time this thought, this constant thought in your head, 'I love him so much. Does he love me as much?' And just as the interest you owe the bank adds up, when you don't pay them they attach everything you own, it's the same with love. Eventually this idea you have that the person you love doesn't love you as much, destroys you. So you become totally destroyed, and an emotional wreck.
Osho also said that if you really want to enjoy love, seek it when you have enough of it, when you don't need it, and you'll find the right one. Love is not two strangers meeting each other. Love doesn't happen at first sight. It's a growing process. You need to acquaint yourself first, know the person first, understand the person first, and then develop a relationship that you can call love.
Anything that has to change, needs to grow. So anything that grows has changed. And anything that does not grow is dead. Love is like that. As long as it's not growing it's dead. If you look around you, the reason we say the tree is still alive is because it's changing and growing. The day it stops growing and the branches go brown, we say it's dead and we cut it down. As long as it doesn't stop growing, it's alive. The day it stops growing it's not alive at all.
So we need to cultivate this love for God, not for human beings. No human being can love another human being. We use these words loosely. If you are going to the park with your boyfriend or girlfriend you say 'I love you,' fifty times because you don't have anything else to say. You can't talk about how the atom bomb was manufactured because you don't know.
With God you don't have to say 'I love you'. And God won't tell you that He loves you because He doesn't need to. The fact that He gave you this human body means that He loves you dearly. It is God's gift to you. He has put you here for free. He gave you free sunshine but the municipality charges you for electricity. He's given you rain and the municipality charges you for water. Not one day did God ask for it back, or ask you to pay for it. So He constantly loves you and He's given you this thing called 'prana', which He gave to the Sun first. He has not restricted you in that. He's allowed you to breathe as fast as you want or as slow as you want, so you can live as long as you want by your breath. That is the greatest love.
Hari Om.
Osho said, 'How true is this love?' Do you really know the meaning of love, and if you know the meaning, does the other person love you as much as you love them? So you are fully occupied with this idea: 'Am I getting as much love as I should be having in this relationship?' And it continues for a long time this thought, this constant thought in your head, 'I love him so much. Does he love me as much?' And just as the interest you owe the bank adds up, when you don't pay them they attach everything you own, it's the same with love. Eventually this idea you have that the person you love doesn't love you as much, destroys you. So you become totally destroyed, and an emotional wreck.
Osho also said that if you really want to enjoy love, seek it when you have enough of it, when you don't need it, and you'll find the right one. Love is not two strangers meeting each other. Love doesn't happen at first sight. It's a growing process. You need to acquaint yourself first, know the person first, understand the person first, and then develop a relationship that you can call love.
Anything that has to change, needs to grow. So anything that grows has changed. And anything that does not grow is dead. Love is like that. As long as it's not growing it's dead. If you look around you, the reason we say the tree is still alive is because it's changing and growing. The day it stops growing and the branches go brown, we say it's dead and we cut it down. As long as it doesn't stop growing, it's alive. The day it stops growing it's not alive at all.
So we need to cultivate this love for God, not for human beings. No human being can love another human being. We use these words loosely. If you are going to the park with your boyfriend or girlfriend you say 'I love you,' fifty times because you don't have anything else to say. You can't talk about how the atom bomb was manufactured because you don't know.
With God you don't have to say 'I love you'. And God won't tell you that He loves you because He doesn't need to. The fact that He gave you this human body means that He loves you dearly. It is God's gift to you. He has put you here for free. He gave you free sunshine but the municipality charges you for electricity. He's given you rain and the municipality charges you for water. Not one day did God ask for it back, or ask you to pay for it. So He constantly loves you and He's given you this thing called 'prana', which He gave to the Sun first. He has not restricted you in that. He's allowed you to breathe as fast as you want or as slow as you want, so you can live as long as you want by your breath. That is the greatest love.
Hari Om.
